2014.07.19【中译英】为什么正确地道歉很重要?

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发表于:2014-07-20 16:09 [只看楼主] [划词开启]

Why Apologizing the Right Way Matters

Saying, “I’m sorry” when you’ve hurt someone can be a hard thing to do. We’re stubborn creatures, after all, and don’t love copping to it when we’re wrong. But apologizing, and meaning it, is a vital part of the forgiveness process — a concept that’s now more understood than ever, thanks to researchers out of the University of Miami, who delved into this psychological phenomenon.

“It’s one of the largest, longest, and, we think, most definitive studies of the effects of conciliatory gestures on human conflict resolution ever conducted,” Michael McCullough, professor of psychology and lead researcher, said in a press release. He found that the most sincere, forgiveness-inducing apologies include saying “I’m sorry,” offering to compensate in some way for the wrongdoing, and taking responsibility. And the reason they work so well is largely based on principles of evolution: the apologies make the transgressor seem more valuable as a relationship partner, and also help the victim feel less at risk of getting hurt again.

“People often think that evolution designed people to be mean, violent, and selfish,” McCullough noted, “but humans need relationship partners, so natural selection probably also gave us tools to help us restore important relationships after they have been damaged by conflict.”



当你已经伤了某人的心时说“对不起”有时可能是一件很难去做的事。毕竟,我们是固执的生物,而且当我们错了我们不愿意承认。但是道歉,并且意识到它,是原谅程序中的一个重要部分——一个比以前更多被理解的概念,多亏了来自迈阿密大学的钻研这个心理学问题的研究者。

“它是最大,最长,而且,我们认为的最确定的来自曾经被实行的人们矛盾解决上的调停手势的努力的研究之一”,Michael  McCullough,心理学教授和领导研究者,在一份发布的新闻中说。他发现最真诚的,引导原谅的道歉包括说“对不起,”在某种程度上为错误的做法提供补偿,并且负责任。并且它们起作用的原因很大基于进化的原则:道歉使犯规者似乎更有作为一个友谊搭档的价值,而且也帮助受害者感到更少的被再次伤害的危险。

“人们经常认为进化设计人们成为吝啬的,暴力的和自私的,”McCullough 强调指出,“但是人们需要友谊搭档,所以自然的选择或许也给我们工具去帮助我们在重要的关系被矛盾损坏之后重建它们。”


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