2014.8.10【英译中】10 Habits of Really Happy Couples 3

发表于:2014-08-10 22:05 [只看楼主] [划词开启]

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.

让信任和原谅成为你们的默认模式

It’s so easy to fight about stupid nothings and hold a grudge, but that’s not the way to be happy in a relationship. You have to forgive your partner after a fight, even if it’s something major. You might feel like they’ve betrayed your trust, but if you don’t give them another chance, then your relationship can never feel natural again. There will always be a rift because you don’t trust your partner, and feel like any time your back is turned, they’ll be doing something hurtful. On the other side, your partner won’t feel loved in the relationship because they’ll have never gotten your full forgiveness. Let your heart love easier by truly forgiving and honestly trusting your partner.

就愚蠢的小事吵架很容易,而且会产生怨恨,这些都不是建立良好关系的正确途径。在吵架后你必须要原谅你的另一半,这就是很重要的事情。你或许感觉他们背叛你的信任,但是你不给他们另一个机会,然后你们的关系就再也无法回到自然状态。因为你对他的不信任你们之间将会产生裂痕,你甚至感觉无论何时你转身的时候,他们都在做伤害你的事情。从另一个方面来说,你的另一半在你们的关系中甚至感觉不到被爱,因为他们从没有得到过你的真正原谅。让你的心底之爱通过真正的原谅和诚实的信任变得更加容易起来吧。

5. Focus on what your partner does right, not wrong.

关注你的爱人做的正确的,而不是错误的

No one likes a nit-pick! Don’t chastise your partner every time you think they do something wrong. There are nice ways to inform someone if they hurt your feelings, or to correct them if they do something in a bad way. But instead of yelling at your partner for breaking a plate, thank them for washing the dishes for you—hey, soap makes things slippery! Your partner will appreciate that you’re seeing the positive things they’re bringing to the relationship, and being more positive and complimentary will make you feel better than being negative all the time.

没有人喜欢挑剔的人。不要每次在你想起来的时候都去责怪你的爱人所犯下的错误。没有好的途径去通知伤害你感情的人们,在他们做错事的时候也无法纠正。但是代替你对爱人打破碗时候的大喊大叫,就是感谢他们帮助你洗碗---嗨,是肥皂让它们变得很滑。你的爱人会很感激你看到 的事情积极的一面,这些会使你们的关系更加积极,甚至让你完全的从消极中走出来,感觉更好。

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